Welcome to 2015!
Whoa, where did 2014 go?
I hope however you celebrated the start of the fresh year was full of joy, love and fun! I had a lovely picnic dinner in the park with family and friends and then ventured into the city to watch the fireworks. It was such a relaxing way to celebrate the beginning of a new year that I think it might become a regular part of our celebrations from now on.
Are you into making new year resolutions that inspire and motivate you throughout the year and not just the beginning few weeks? Did you make of them any today?
I used to be a resolutions kind of gal, but found that they fizzled out fairly quickly once reality set in and then I was booting myself in February when my resolutions didn't come to fruition or even look like getting started. Once I set my goals I often immediately felt stressed out by them! To tell the truth, I don't even remember what I put on my list at the beginning of 2014! Oopsies!
So, I've decided to do things a little differently this year and I'd love to hear what you think.
Instead of setting myself goals that a time bound and laser-specific I'm now going to state my intentions for the year that are NOT measurable objectives. For instance, I'd love to lose some weight. But rather than give myself the fixed goal of losing 10 kilos in 6 months, I've opted for working out what the benefits of losing weight are for me. Why do I want to do it? What will I feel when I lose it? Is it really about the weight or more about how I feel in myself? So, after some soul searching, I've figured that I just want to feel better about myself, inside and out. I want to feel more confident. I want to live a long life and be fit and healthy for myself and my family. I want to be strong.
Therefore, I'm making a declaration that I'm intending to nourish my body with healthful foods, look after my mind with some exercise (any kind will do!) and learn some new activities/hobbies that are FUN! Pure, simple and no beating myself up over them. I'm going to make the journey itself the goal!
On top of that, here are just some of my intentions for 2015:
-to feel brave by stepping out of my comfort zone and trying new activities
-to create beautiful, inspiring and fun things and launch them when they feel ready
-to say "no, thank you" to what doesn't make me feel good
-to get my creations in front of as many people as possible - make others feel good too!
What do you think? I think they sound far less stressful and a lot more exciting. I think I'm setting myself up for the success of feeling great about lots of things this year!
Speaking of intentions... I have finally completed a collection of pendants that I think you'll find inspiring and VERY TIMELY! Introducing...
HANDMADE Wishing Globe Pendants are beautifully constructed pyrex globes filled with whimsical REAL dandelion seeds -lovingly plucked by me! There is a charm, colour and inspiring backing card to suit your tastes.
The idea is that you put on your necklace and remind yourself of an intention or wish, or as many as you like. Feel good wearing your gorgeous globe and look spunkariffic all at the same time!
I'd love to hear what you think of either my resolution idea or the new range, or both! Just leave a comment in the comment section below. Thanks!
Anyhoo, there you have my very first post for 2015 - may there be many more! Stay safe out there lovelies and have a wonderful beginning to 2015.
Nervous doesn't even start to cover it actually. You see, I'm hitting 'publish' on this very website next Tuesday and it's just about the biggest thing I've done so far to put myself out there since I started Urban Charms 12 months ago. Sure, there have been little wins along the way, but this time I feel like what I'm about to embark on could be life altering. I'm really doing it.
In the middle of the night I've pondered just what it is that's making me so anxious about the whole thing. I'm nearly ready. I will be ready. I've done all I can and I'm happy with the result. But I keep coming back to the same worry over and over again.
Failure or... get ready for it... success! They both scare me!
I have to admit I've been a bit of a people pleaser my whole life. Family admired my stamina to stick out that crappy job as a teenager when the going got tough. "She's nothing if not persistent." "That girl has stamina" they would say. I didn't work there for 4 years because I had stamina. Sorry, Grandpa. I stayed in that job because I didn't want to look like a quitter to you or anybody else for that matter. Because if anybody dear to me even entertained the thought that I was a quitter... then maybe I actually was one. My vision of self had been so distorted by what I thought other people wanted from me that I was never quite sure if any decisions I made were mine or actually someone else's.
So, fast forward to now - 30 something and about to rock a business I love. I'm still a bit of a people pleaser. I like to make people smile. I like to make people feel at ease and comfortable. But I'm good with that now. I see it as a gift now. I don't compromise my ideals or beliefs to make these things happen anymore. I CAN and DO actually make decisions for myself and I CAN and DO set healthy boundaries in a nice (and sometimes bumbling and inarticulate) way. I'm about to jump waaaay out of my comfort zone and it was ALL my idea. I'm about to nose dive into completely unknown territory with a 'proper' product AND service based business. I'm scared and thrilled all at once.
The nervousness begins when that people pleaser tries to take over and says 'Yeah, but Lisa. What if you fail? What if it all goes horribly wrong at the launch and you are embarrassed in front of the people you love? Worse yet.. what if you succeed beyond your expectations? Will you change? Will your friends still like you? Will you have to make changes in your life? Will you have to keep stepping outside your comfort zone to grow?'
And the answer, my dear friend, is who knows? I've heard it said that a huge percentage of what we worry about never actually eventuates, so I'm going to bite the bullet and do what makes me happy and navigate the hurdles when and if they come. If I make a mistake or fail, that's great. It's a learning opportunity. I say it to my kids in class ALL. THE. TIME. Time to start living by my words! And if I succeed... well, there are all kinds of ways to measure success, so I'll let you know when I get there. Whatever happens, the journey has been a blast!
If you have something that scared the life out of you but you did it anyway I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
Ahhh... sometimes I have a flair for the dramatic, and this just happens to be one of those times!
So, last week my fab brother and sis-in-law invited me up to Sydney. Dan is a brilliant photographer and Zoe is a wonderful professional makeup artist and they were kind enough to offer me a shoot for my website - what a killer team they make! I jumped at the chance and got myself up to Sydney quick sticks!
I was super excited to be spending some time with them and my sensationally cute niece, Akira but I was also excited and nervous all at once about having my photo taken. You see, I'm a pretty self-conscious poppet and the thought of having to 'strike-a-pose' in the middle of Sydney was a daunting prospect to say the least.
After Zoe worked her magic and Dan took some shots in the house we bundled Akira into the car and took off for Surry Hills, looking for some vintage and rustic style walls we could use as a backdrop. Zoe maneuvered the car like a pro through those tiny streets as we zipped around looking for the perfect location. We parked the car and wandered around - there were so many places to choose from! I knew straight up that Surry Hills was a golden suggestion by Zoe for the shots.
Surry Hills is a busy place. People up and down the streets, cars zooming around. I wondered just how I would go with so many people around. At one point I was precariously standing on an old abandoned terrace house's creaky verandah trying to look relaxed and natural as pedestrians wandered past, probably wondering what the heck I was doing there and waiting for me to fall through the floor. "You're not in Kansas anymore, Toto" I had to remind myself as my brother snapped away. A photo shoot in the street in Canberra would be something to stop and watch, but in Sydney it's most likely a day to day occurrence- nothing spesh.
In the end, we found this beautiful old whitewashed brick wall down an alley that was the perfect place. "Yippee!" I wrongly thought to myself, "no-one will see me here!"
How wrong I could be.
It seemed we'd found the party alley-way of the suburb, with people waltzing down it every two seconds, and me backing up against the wall with an apologetic smile. They all said hello and didn't seem to care what we were up to.
In the end we got some great shots - I was absolutely stoked! But we also got some doozies (which I will post next week). At one point I couldn't stop laughing and I had to 'shake it out'. Zoe and Dan were amazing... and so patient. I'm sure I was not at all what they're used to working with - but they managed the situation with grace, humour and an amazing amount of shared confidence - in themselves and me - which I appreciate more than anything. It's so soul enriching to spend time with people who love what they do - their passion for their vocations just beams out at you and you can't help but feel in awe in their presence.
You can check out the photos I've used on my 'About Me' page, and here are some more of the shots I love:
What about you? Have you been out of your comfort zone lately? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below!
In the meantime, do what you love and love what you do!
I've been suffering from a little bit of analysis paralysis lately. Too many choices and not enough confidence to take a leap of faith on one. Working by myself, for myself and not a person at hand to bounce an idea off , unless you count the cat... oh, and social media of course... Social media rocks for getting advice from friends and associates.
Should I make a DIY Youtube video or stick with written instructions? Do I chose the coral or the raspberry? There's not much worse in my business books. Sitting stagnant rather than moving in any direction can be a confidence killer and brain power sucker.
So, what do I do about it when I feel like I've lost my business mojo and I can't make a decision to save myself? Well, dear friend, I take a step away from the computer and I turn up the volume!
I'm totally stuck in the 80's when it comes to my favourite tunes and I have to admit, a good dose of 'We Built This City' or 'Break My Stride' can get my decision making juices flowing. I tune into an 80's station on Jango (if you haven't heard of this online music gem then you need to check it out. Free online music selected for you based on what you like!) and then I might do a little dance around my kitchen while I sing into a carrot stick. I may or may not slide into my lounge room in my stockinged feet while nobody's in the house. I might also swing from the pantry doors like a little kid as I contemplate what's for lunch and just why did Devo choose to wear pot plant pots on their heads.
I tell you, there is absolutely nothing like a dance break in the middle of a frustrating decision making process - provided I am not in a meeting of course! Hmmm.. I'd like to see that one.
After a good 80's rock out, I sit myself down, step back into my business owner suede boots (and yes, they are often madly tapping under the desk after an energetic sing along) and I look at things with new clarity. Mostly, it's just the break I need to clear my head and get some perspective. I think to myself "so, what would Madonna or Cyndi do in this situation?" and you know what? I have a feeling they would both say "Lisa, stop your fluffing about and JUST DO IT! Choose one. You can always change it later. Start NOW!" Wise words... even if they are from the imaginary Madonna getting her Vogue on on my shoulder.
So, what about you? What do you do when you're stuck with a decision? Write a list of pros and cons? Talk to people for advice? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
Until next time, I'll be making like Billy Idol and 'dancing with myself' ...whoa, whoa, whoa..
What will you be doing?
If you're an accessories junkie like me, you're sometimes bound to have trouble finding the right kind of bling to suit you. We all want jewellery that flatters and enhances our best features and detracts from our least favourites - but how do we find it?
You know, we've all done it - a friend shows up to a night out wearing an amazing set of chandelier earrings. They look so stunning on her that you just HAVE to have them. You skip on down to the store the next day to get yourself a pair but when you get them home they just don't look quite as brilliant on you as they did on your friend. Why, oh why?
Well, the answer is easy, if not a little mathematical. Obviously your outfit and wardrobe will make a difference here (look for my future post on matching your jewellery to your outfit), but did you know that your face shape counts in the equation when choosing jewellery to suit you? Following are some basic face shapes and what sort of jewellery you should be looking for to bring out your natural beauty! Ba-zing!
Oval-shaped faces have foreheads that are as wide as the cheekbones. The oval face narrows from the cheeks to the chin, creating the oval shape.
WHAT TO WEAR: You are one lucky lady because you can get away with almost any style of jewellery. It ALL looks good on you, but avoid earrings that are overly long because this will add more length to your oval face. Hoops are a great choice for you. This shape of face can also pull off earrings that are wider in design.
FAMOUS OVAL FACES: Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba and Megan Fox
Heart-shaped faces feature a forehead that is wider than the cheeks. The cheeks taper down to the chin.
WHAT TO WEAR: A heart shaped face looks amazing with a choker, or a double or triple strand necklace. By creating fullness at the neck you can balance the wider eye and cheekbone area with the delicate chin of a heart shaped face.
FAMOUS HEART SHAPED FACES: Jennifer Love-Hewitt, Kim Kardashian and Reese Witherspoon.
Also called circular faces, round faces are widest at the cheekbones. The cheekbones do not taper down to the chin as with other face shapes.
WHAT TO WEAR: Select jewellery that can help lengthen the appearance of your face. It is flattering to wear longer necklaces that balance out your look. The round face is ideal for wearing long, vertical style earrings like dangles, drops or narrow chandeliers.
FAMOUS ROUND FACES: Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz and Adele.
The forehead, cheeks, and jaws are all about the same width on a square-shaped face. Women with square-shaped faces tend to have very strong jaw lines.
WHAT TO WEAR: Square faces look best when jewellery has curves to soften the face and give a more oval appearance. Longer styles usually work well because they create a vertical line to lengthen your face. Look for a necklace with a pendant or components with curves to balance the strong angular features of your jaw. A square face is ideal for wearing large oval hoops, long drop earrings and narrow chandelier earrings.
FAMOUS SQUARE FACES: Keira Knightley, Demi Moore and Kelly Osbourne.
Sometimes called a rectangular or narrow face, the oblong face has the same general shape as a square face but is elongated.
WHAT TO WEAR: An oblong face is enhances by a choker style necklace. A choker helps soften the 'vertical line' that can occur with a narrow face. Large beads at the base of the neck help shorten the look of the face. These face shapes can pull off wearing larger, bold style earrings, especially if they have loops, curves or swirls.
FAMOUS NARROW FACES: Liv Tyler, Cate Blanchett and Hilary Swank
IF YOU CAN'T DETERMINE YOUR FACE SHAPE
Sometimes it's difficult to determine our own face shape by looking in a mirror, or even measuring its dimensions. Here's a technique that can help:
NOW FOR SOME FUN!
After you've determined your face shape take a look at these adorably fun pieces. Work out which pieces would suit you and your individual style the best!
Was this post helpful? Have you gained some clarity around what face type you have and what jewellery suits you best?
If so, I'd love to hear from you in the comments section below.
Until then, stay safe and laugh lots!
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Hi, I'm Lisa. To me, creativity is more than just a thing I do. It's who I am. You can read more about my story here.